7 Things I Learned From Running a Marathon

RUNNING A MARATHON WILL CHANGE YOU FOREVER. I am not a runner by trade or preference, though I used to be athletic–before marriage and children. However, running a marathon taught me some lessons–or reminded me of truths–that I will be forever grateful for. Last year, in my 39th year, Leah tricked me into running a marathon. It started out harmlessly enough with, “Wanna go for a walk?” How could I refuse? Then it became, let’s just run a mile. Then there was a 5K, later followed by a 10K. The 10K was a stepping stone to the half marathon which Read More

Momentum Group Read: WishCraft by Barbara Sher

“The things that are unique and incomparable about you are the only basis on which you can design a life that will truly satisfy you.” Barbara Sher WishCraft: How to Get What You Really Want was one of those books that created an itch I didn’t know I had. Ms. Sher poses the proposition that you are probably living a life based on everyone else’s standards and ideas of success. She tackles the idea that you have hidden talents, desires, and creativity that have gone dormant and only in awakening them will you find true success–not by the world’s standards Read More

Flawed but Beautiful

Why do we value the imperfect, in things and nature but reject the same imperfections and flaws in ourselves and others? I recently ate at a lovely restaurant that had beautiful finishes and impeccable food. The lighting was rustic, the chairs vintage and the table crafted of wood that has seen many decades come and go. There was more than just a charm–there was a deep beauty that permeated the materials. The knots and twists wrought into the wood over years of growth yielded a completely unique plank that made this place feel special and important. But why is a Read More

Power of Planning

“Plans are nothing. Planning is everything.” -Dwight D Eisenhower Planning is a powerful way to take back time and master the important instead of the urgent. Ideas and actions are forever floating around in my head: “I need to do X,” “Oh yeah, don’t forget that,” “the next step is…” Whatever it is that you are trying to accomplish, whether it be a specific project or a definite objective, it is important to capture all your thoughts and action steps in an orderly way. I find that writing things down gets them out of my head and forces me to Read More

Momentum Group Read: The Rhythm of Life

Momentum Group for this month is diving into Matthew Kelly’s book, The Rhythm of Life. The beginning of the year is a great time to remember again what you are here for and assess how well you are doing it. Matthew Kelly has a unique perspective concerning dreams and success that collides with society’s view of success. While modern culture would tell you that success is defined by your net worth or your ability to do what you want, Kelly would say that becoming the best-version-of-yourself is the pinnacle of success. Get with the Program. The message is always consistent Read More

Emotional Slavery No More

Emotional Slavery”When we stop fighting the inevitable we release energy which enables us to create a richer life.” -Elsie MacCormickOne thing that I have only recently discovered is the enslaving power of an emotion in a momentary decision. Every day brings with it a set of tasks that must be completed as part of my ‘necessary’ responsibilities. I found that I would frequently dread certain jobs to the point that I would put it off until it was a much bigger job. Laundry, dishes, responding to email, checking voicemail and following up with clients–pick something. I could mentally turn any Read More

28 Days

“Courage doesn’t always roar.  Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” – Mary Anne Radmacher” One thing I have learned having watched the recovery of an alcoholic is just how hard making a change can be. It begins with a decision that is renewed minute after minute, hour after hour, day after day. The recovering alcoholic says to himself, “I can be sober, just for now. Just for the next hour,” and then renews that commitment again. And again. And again. Until the process becomes a habit without a Read More

Getting in the Big Rocks

The Big Rocks: A paradigm parable There is a story in the self-help world about priorities. It goes something like this: A teacher put a challenge to his students: put a pile of big rocks, small rocks, sand and water into a mason jar, leaving nothing out. The skeptical students tried first by filling the jar with water, then the sand and eventually tried to fit the rocks. The jar could not accommodate the big rocks and the smaller ones were only partially included. After a period of frustration, the teacher stepped in to demonstrate the only way that the Read More

The One Stupid Question

It has been said that there are no stupid questions–. Recently, I realized, however,  that I have made the mistake of asking, as have other people, the one stupid question out there: “How DO you DO it?” We ask the mom of multiple kids (or maybe we are the ones being asked). We ask the great cook, or the meticulous housekeeper. We ask the thin and energetic, and the joyful cancer patient. We ask the grieving mother and the successful executive. We pine after the order that is apparent in the lives of some people and want to know “How Read More

Efficient vs Effective

“We may be very busy, we may be very efficient, but we will also be truly effective only when we begin with the end in mind.” –Stephen Covey Its easy to be “busy” all day long and not accomplish much of anything. It’s possible that we spend our time putting out fires and not doing the most important tasks we have for the day. We also may fall into the trap of being efficient, but not effective. Being “efficient” means doing something with the  least energy possible. It is the quickest way to do something that costs the least in Read More