Momentum Group Read: WishCraft by Barbara Sher

“The things that are unique and incomparable about you are the only basis on which you can design a life that will truly satisfy you.” Barbara Sher WishCraft: How to Get What You Really Want was one of those books that created an itch I didn’t know I had. Ms. Sher poses the proposition that you are probably living a life based on everyone else’s standards and ideas of success. She tackles the idea that you have hidden talents, desires, and creativity that have gone dormant and only in awakening them will you find true success–not by the world’s standards Read More

Power of Planning

“Plans are nothing. Planning is everything.” -Dwight D Eisenhower Planning is a powerful way to take back time and master the important instead of the urgent. Ideas and actions are forever floating around in my head: “I need to do X,” “Oh yeah, don’t forget that,” “the next step is…” Whatever it is that you are trying to accomplish, whether it be a specific project or a definite objective, it is important to capture all your thoughts and action steps in an orderly way. I find that writing things down gets them out of my head and forces me to Read More

Emotional Slavery No More

Emotional Slavery”When we stop fighting the inevitable we release energy which enables us to create a richer life.” -Elsie MacCormickOne thing that I have only recently discovered is the enslaving power of an emotion in a momentary decision. Every day brings with it a set of tasks that must be completed as part of my ‘necessary’ responsibilities. I found that I would frequently dread certain jobs to the point that I would put it off until it was a much bigger job. Laundry, dishes, responding to email, checking voicemail and following up with clients–pick something. I could mentally turn any Read More

28 Days

“Courage doesn’t always roar.  Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” – Mary Anne Radmacher” One thing I have learned having watched the recovery of an alcoholic is just how hard making a change can be. It begins with a decision that is renewed minute after minute, hour after hour, day after day. The recovering alcoholic says to himself, “I can be sober, just for now. Just for the next hour,” and then renews that commitment again. And again. And again. Until the process becomes a habit without a Read More

Getting in the Big Rocks

The Big Rocks: A paradigm parable There is a story in the self-help world about priorities. It goes something like this: A teacher put a challenge to his students: put a pile of big rocks, small rocks, sand and water into a mason jar, leaving nothing out. The skeptical students tried first by filling the jar with water, then the sand and eventually tried to fit the rocks. The jar could not accommodate the big rocks and the smaller ones were only partially included. After a period of frustration, the teacher stepped in to demonstrate the only way that the Read More

The One Stupid Question

It has been said that there are no stupid questions–. Recently, I realized, however,  that I have made the mistake of asking, as have other people, the one stupid question out there: “How DO you DO it?” We ask the mom of multiple kids (or maybe we are the ones being asked). We ask the great cook, or the meticulous housekeeper. We ask the thin and energetic, and the joyful cancer patient. We ask the grieving mother and the successful executive. We pine after the order that is apparent in the lives of some people and want to know “How Read More

Efficient vs Effective

“We may be very busy, we may be very efficient, but we will also be truly effective only when we begin with the end in mind.” –Stephen Covey Its easy to be “busy” all day long and not accomplish much of anything. It’s possible that we spend our time putting out fires and not doing the most important tasks we have for the day. We also may fall into the trap of being efficient, but not effective. Being “efficient” means doing something with the  least energy possible. It is the quickest way to do something that costs the least in Read More

Square 1

Sometimes in the journey it is necessary to go back to the fundamentals, to the basics. Revisiting the essentials offers you a chance to re-calibrate, to regroup and to make adjustments to start again. It means going back to Square 1. Though there are probably different “basics” for everyone, depending on where they are in their lives, there are a few elements that can make or break your day. Getting them right again can be the difference between living with momentum or merely surviving. Square 1 means going back to 4 things GOD PRIORITIES ATTITUDE GRATITUDE GOD Failing to make Read More

An Alcoholic for a Day

“Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” So what does alcoholism have to do with living an authentic life? If you have ever known a recovered alcoholic, you will recognize a strength that is not found in everyday life. Unless you have loved someone who has struggled with a life-altering addiction, you may not have had the humbling experience of realizing that no one is immune to such addictions. Alcoholism happens to be a pretty obvious and destructive behavior that Read More

The Fly Lady

I guess I should’ve gotten the hint when my mom handed me a copy long ago of the Fly Lady’s Sink Reflections masterpiece on mastering your home routines. I think I still have her copy. It is one of those super practical books that, if followed,  can revolutionize your home maintenance in a way that it is not a burden (Notice the caveat, “if you follow it…”). Owning or reading the book without consistent application is the equivalent of paying for Weight Watchers but choosing to do it your own way. Though I fail pretty consistently at keeping things ordered, Read More