7 Things I Learned From Running a Marathon

RUNNING A MARATHON WILL CHANGE YOU FOREVER. I am not a runner by trade or preference, though I used to be athletic–before marriage and children. However, running a marathon taught me some lessons–or reminded me of truths–that I will be forever grateful for. Last year, in my 39th year, Leah tricked me into running a marathon. It started out harmlessly enough with, “Wanna go for a walk?” How could I refuse? Then it became, let’s just run a mile. Then there was a 5K, later followed by a 10K. The 10K was a stepping stone to the half marathon which

Not my monkey. Not my circus.

Not my monkey. Not my circus.  This is one of the most freeing mantras for whenever I get off track with other people’s projects or issues. I used to spend hours agonizing over the decisions of others that had virtually no bearing on my life. I now know that being able to identify what IS my circus and what is not is one of the greatest skills I have acquired. It has created natural boundaries for my time and energy.  Three Ways to Protect Yourself from OPM (Other People’s Monkeys) Step back. Sometimes just stepping back, emotional and physically, can

Momentum Group Read: WishCraft by Barbara Sher

“The things that are unique and incomparable about you are the only basis on which you can design a life that will truly satisfy you.” Barbara Sher WishCraft: How to Get What You Really Want was one of those books that created an itch I didn’t know I had. Ms. Sher poses the proposition that you are probably living a life based on everyone else’s standards and ideas of success. She tackles the idea that you have hidden talents, desires, and creativity that have gone dormant and only in awakening them will you find true success–not by the world’s standards

“The things that are unique and incomparable about you are the only basis on which you can design a life that will truly satisfy you.” Barbara Sher

WishCraft: How to Get What You Really Want was one of those books that created an itch I didn’t know I had. Ms. Sher poses the proposition that you are probably living a life based on everyone else’s standards and ideas of success. She tackles the idea that you have hidden talents, desires, and creativity that have gone dormant and only in awakening them will you find true success–not by the world’s standards of success but by your own journey’s map.

Some books come and go depending on what the current ambitions are. They lose favor when the next trendy wave rushes through. Wishcraft is one of those treasured few that deals in principles, not theory. It doesn’t promise the world but promises to motivate you to discover your true self.

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Misplaced Priorities Make for Misery

Not making your real priorities your actual priorities makes for misery. While working feverishly on all the pressing projects and knocking out deadlines for everyone else, you look around and realize that the whirlwind flashing past you is YOUR LIFE! Like a rat in a wheel you are chasing after every type of perfect: happy boss, happy husband, happy job, happy client, happy kids, happy body.. while you slowly go crazy and lose perspective of what is most important to you. I have found it easy to lose perspective. I have a lot of pressures: marriage, employees, clients, kids, friends

Not making your real priorities your actual priorities makes for misery.

While working feverishly on all the pressing projects and knocking out deadlines for everyone else, you look around and realize that the whirlwind flashing past you is YOUR LIFE! Like a rat in a wheel you are chasing after every type of perfect: happy boss, happy husband, happy job, happy client, happy kids, happy body.. while you slowly go crazy and lose perspective of what is most important to you.

I have found it easy to lose perspective. I have a lot of pressures: marriage, employees, clients, kids, friends and every one of them is important. This spring was exceptionally high stress and I hit a wall. I had nothing else to give–not to my business, not to my family, not to my Creator. I was empty. It was the moment of asking, “What is it all for anyways? Why am I so out of sync? Why am I so unhappy, so……miserable?”

The answer became apparent with some stepping away: I was not putting first things first and I was trying to do it all by myself.

Priorities and Prayer

It is humbling to realize that sometimes what you want most is actually the thing you have been neglecting. In my most stressed out moments, I longed for the simple pleasure of cleaning my kitchen or folding my laundry. But the reality is, the neglect of those most basic tasks were the basis of my stress. When I finally just dropped everything to re-center, I started with the basics of decluttering and routine tasks. I realized then the damage I was doing to my joy by not taking care of the most important tasks first, in this case, the care of my home and family.

Setting priorities is never a done deal. Priorities will change as circumstances change. It is necessary to evaluate regularly whether or not your are committing your time and energy to the most important things at the time. For me, I know that the two constants in my priorities are God and my family. The challenge is always keeping those things at the head of the list.

How to Re-Set your Priorities

  • Make a list of your priorities
  • Next to each item, answer the question “Am I living as though this is important to me?”
  • If not, ask ” What can I do to make this a priority again?”
  • Pray for the grace necessary to do what is required of you–the greatest misery is trying to do it alone.

How do you manage to keep first things first in your life?

Flawed but Beautiful

Why do we value the imperfect, in things and nature but reject the same imperfections and flaws in ourselves and others? I recently ate at a lovely restaurant that had beautiful finishes and impeccable food. The lighting was rustic, the chairs vintage and the table crafted of wood that has seen many decades come and go. There was more than just a charm–there was a deep beauty that permeated the materials. The knots and twists wrought into the wood over years of growth yielded a completely unique plank that made this place feel special and important. But why is a

Grow Something, Grow Yourself

“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow”. – Ralph Waldo Emerson When you grow a garden, you grow yourself. My primary occupation is working with clients to improve the value of their lives and their homes through professional landscape design. I help people make the most of what they have, show them how they can make it better and walk with them through the process of creation and beautification. One thing about landscaping, and more specifically, gardening, is that you can’t help but grow yourself. When you try something new or

Momentum Group Read: The Screwtape Letters

“He wants them to learn to walk and must therefore take away His hand; and if only the will to walk is really there He is pleased even with their stumbles.” -Screwtape to his nephew Wormwood, Screwtape Letters, C.S. Lewis A series of letters from an experienced tempter to his devil nephew, The Screwtape Letters is an eye-opening journey into self-awareness. Lewis himself is said to have gone into a deep depression while writing the book. He goes to great lengths to paint a vivid picture of how a devil goes about tempting a poor soul, and how the soul

Momentum Group Read: The Hidden Power of Kindness

The double reward of kind words is the happiness they cause in you and in others.”          -Lawrence Lovasik It is in the small courtesies that we show our ability to be kind. If every person were just a little kinder to those around them, the world would be a better place. The Hidden Power of Kindness: A Practical Handbook for Souls Who Dare to Transform the World, One Deed at a Time, brings to the forefront the importance of being intentionally kind in a world that is fraught with unkindness. Do you believe that you are a kind person? Are

Momentum Group Read: The Rhythm of Life

Momentum Group for this month is diving into Matthew Kelly’s book, The Rhythm of Life. The beginning of the year is a great time to remember again what you are here for and assess how well you are doing it. Matthew Kelly has a unique perspective concerning dreams and success that collides with society’s view of success. While modern culture would tell you that success is defined by your net worth or your ability to do what you want, Kelly would say that becoming the best-version-of-yourself is the pinnacle of success. Get with the Program. The message is always consistent

Emotional Slavery No More

Emotional Slavery”When we stop fighting the inevitable we release energy which enables us to create a richer life.” -Elsie MacCormickOne thing that I have only recently discovered is the enslaving power of an emotion in a momentary decision. Every day brings with it a set of tasks that must be completed as part of my ‘necessary’ responsibilities. I found that I would frequently dread certain jobs to the point that I would put it off until it was a much bigger job. Laundry, dishes, responding to email, checking voicemail and following up with clients–pick something. I could mentally turn any